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跟w讲，我认识了一个很好的中国男生，她说，快介绍给我。为什么？好的，我当然自己留下。

这就是跟想找男朋友，或者想找新男朋友的单身女生朋友间的冲突。怎么分享朋友，尤其是男性朋友。我和l绝对没有分歧，因为大家的品位着实不同，可是当面对一个对什么男生都有兴趣的单身女朋友的时候该怎么办？

不能大家一起玩，最起码暂时不行。不能加他为facebook好友，也是最起码暂时不行。这是为了女性朋友间的友谊考虑，也是为了自己的利益着想。

不禁感叹，女人呀。。。

Baby it's cold outside

This title is from Norah Jones, a Jazz song, Baby it's cold outside.

So who is your boyfriend? A westerner or a Asian? I am sure that Asian will say, baby, it's cold outside, how is about your german boy friend gonna to say when it snows outside?

I have to admit there is a huge difference between Asian boy and Westerner (or here I'd would like to say German boys). Once W concluded, "I have no interested in German boys any more. Because, german are ideal for dating, but never gonna be a good husband. " Talked to a friend yesterday, she said, with german, my life is my life, your life is your life. For, at least, Chinese, when two are together, your life is my life, my life is your life, two ppl are real "Together". I was joking, well for me, it is better, your life is your life, and my life is your life, haha. Well, you know, nothing is perfect.

German are independent, especially personality independent. For German, when I like you and you like me, then they are together. Man do not really "After" a girl.Of course, they will do romantic things but man do not need to pay too much. When the feeling is fading, well, it is time to say good bye. And after that, two still could be friends. Chinese are a little bit different. Boys should do sth for girls which so called "test". After certain tests, girls will be with boys, well, if the girl also likes the boy. And there is one principle, you'd better never after a boy. Chinese boys do not like positive girls, they prefer to be the controller. Well, definitely, German are opposite. As my language partner told me, in Germany, you have to talk to boy first or at least you need to give a hint, otherwise, you could wait for your Mr.right, forever.... (what the hell, no wonder German women are famous for there strong characters).... And when the relationship start, german pay more attention to feeling, chinese concentrate on details. So, this is part of culture different. I can't not say anything about marriage, because I never go through that part, well, I even doubt if I have the chance. Being single and fabulous !!!!

Apple or organ, which one is your favorite? It really depends on you...

what do we need from dating?

I met someone in a club, w met someone in a house party.

We both dated with them, of course, separately. But, she dated with a Korean young boy, I dated with a German young boy who is studying law, so i could call him law boy. Yes, both of them are younger than us. Two type of ppl me and w and two type of guys as well.

I am following my feeling. After two dates with the law boy, I gave up. I have no feeling with him at all. And I am struggling should i meet him again or not? If we meet, that really means sth gonna happen which is absolutely not my will. So my question is if you do not like someone should you continue to date? W said, of course, you should.

She is happy with the korean boy. He is young, but cute, not a real experienced hanging with girl guy, but at his age, he is good enough. He knows how to make girls laugh. W's principle to my question is that, we need someone accompany. We need someone who admires us and tells us you are great and gives us more confident. We need man around us to let us know that we are still attractive and charming. We need man around us to LOVE us...

But why we can't give these to ourself? Are we so afraid of being alone? Are we so afraid of being forget? Or we are girls and we need to be loved.

So, we do not need a real relationship before we meet Mr.right. But we need date to prove that we are great. I am sad to write these down, because that means we are not strong enough.... am I?

How do you think about Sex and the City?

My life was chaos with boys.

I was serious with everything whole of my life. I was serious with my study, my daily life, my job and of course boys too. I am the kind of people who never try the impossible boys but rather wait for the true love, just wait... So my life is passing by like I am a nun... Then one day, I asked myself, why I have no boy friend? I though I am an intelligent women so I demand high standards of my man. He must be attractive (I mean good looking), funny, smart, open-minded, self-confident, warmhearted, successful and so on. But is there this kind of man really exiting? Frankly speaking, I have no answer for that....

With this question, I went out with two other female friends who share the similar miserable questions with me together. We talked. Both of them have boy friends, but they are not happy. Wei's problem is, she wants to get marry but her boyfriend does not. And Lei's problem is vice versa-- her boyfriend wants to get marry but she does not. So, suddenly, I realized, I know nothing about man. And I know nothing about relationship.

Of course, I am not a nun. I had relationships. But non of them is long, not longer than 1 year. why is this happen? I do not know. Sometimes I am interested in a man, but after a while, maybe 2 weeks, the feeling is gone. Sometimes, men are interested in me, but most of time I do not want to give them chance. Well, sometimes, when I am interested in someone, he does not like me. So why why why why?

While I am single, so it is ok I am bothered by these questions. But why my female friends are not happy with their relationship? People are together, but they are not happy?

With all these questions, three of us decided to find the answer out. How? We trust only the reality and practice explains everything. We decided to go out and date with different boys.

It is absolutely not the real sex and the city. The whole story from the movie is too far away from normal life. But the sprite of being an independent women, enjoying the currently life, purchasing our own happiness encourages, at least me, a lot.

I want to be a happy girl, a real happy girl who is self confident, independent, attractive, mature. And I want to know man. I do not want to be kind of bitch who is sleeping or dating with random everyone man she met. But I want to know how man is thinking. In case, when I meet my true love, I won't miss it out. That is why I decided to go out with other two. And who knows what gonna happen? Well, in fact, something did happen.

I would like to write these down. Sometimes, they are interesting, sometimes they are sad, sometimes they are ending with nothing. But, I live in the real life, not a story or movie, so reality is reality, a little bit cruel, a little bit bitter, but a little bit sweet as well.