what do we need from dating?

I met someone in a club, w met someone in a house party.

We both dated with them, of course, separately. But, she dated with a Korean young boy, I dated with a German young boy who is studying law, so i could call him law boy. Yes, both of them are younger than us. Two type of ppl me and w and two type of guys as well.

I am following my feeling. After two dates with the law boy, I gave up. I have no feeling with him at all. And I am struggling should i meet him again or not? If we meet, that really means sth gonna happen which is absolutely not my will. So my question is if you do not like someone should you continue to date? W said, of course, you should.

She is happy with the korean boy. He is young, but cute, not a real experienced hanging with girl guy, but at his age, he is good enough. He knows how to make girls laugh. W's principle to my question is that, we need someone accompany. We need someone who admires us and tells us you are great and gives us more confident. We need man around us to let us know that we are still attractive and charming. We need man around us to LOVE us...

But why we can't give these to ourself? Are we so afraid of being alone? Are we so afraid of being forget? Or we are girls and we need to be loved.

So, we do not need a real relationship before we meet Mr.right. But we need date to prove that we are great. I am sad to write these down, because that means we are not strong enough.... am I?